Comments for Solutions For Leaders Blog http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog Wed, 25 May 2011 16:38:52 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 Comment on Leadership Consulting: A Question Too Embarrassing to Ask by Martha Forlines http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/leadership-consulting-a-question-too-embarrassing-to-ask/cpage/1#comment-391 Martha Forlines Wed, 25 May 2011 16:38:52 +0000 http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/leadership-consulting-a-question-too-embarrassing-to-ask#comment-391 John, One of our favorite quotes is by Patricia Aburdene, author of Megatrends 2010 ..."Self mastery if the foundation for leadership", which we are in violent agreement with! John,
One of our favorite quotes is by Patricia Aburdene, author of
Megatrends 2010

…”Self mastery if the foundation for leadership”, which we are in violent agreement with!

]]> Comment on Leadership Coaching: Hallmark of the Second-Rater? by Martha Forlines http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/leadership-coaching-hallmark-of-the-second-rater/cpage/1#comment-390 Martha Forlines Wed, 25 May 2011 16:30:01 +0000 http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/leadership-coaching-hallmark-of-the-second-rater#comment-390 Rachel, Thanks so much for your confirmation of this all too common "second rater" phenomenon that can infect organizations large and small. High performing employees are very intolerant of this. What companies do not want now is high performers leaving because of cultural tolerance of this negative behavior. Rachel,
Thanks so much for your confirmation of this all too common “second rater” phenomenon that can infect organizations large and small. High performing employees are very intolerant of this. What companies do not want now is high performers leaving because of cultural tolerance of this negative behavior.

]]> Comment on Leadership Coaching: Hallmark of the Second-Rater? by Rachel Hilgers http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/leadership-coaching-hallmark-of-the-second-rater/cpage/1#comment-389 Rachel Hilgers Wed, 25 May 2011 14:56:43 +0000 http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/leadership-coaching-hallmark-of-the-second-rater#comment-389 Hi Martha, Thank you so much for this. While you don't know "my story", I have been in a leadership position, at an international level, where this issue was absolutely devastating on every level. And the issue has come up more than once. It is, in fact, "lonely at the top." It was a special pleasure to work with you because I truly admire your work. Sincerely, Rachel Hi Martha,

Thank you so much for this. While you don’t know “my story”, I have been in a leadership position, at an international level, where this issue was absolutely devastating on every level. And the issue has come up more than once. It is, in fact, “lonely at the top.”

It was a special pleasure to work with you because I truly admire your work.

Sincerely,
Rachel

]]> Comment on Leadership Consulting: A Question Too Embarrassing to Ask by Daniel White http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/leadership-consulting-a-question-too-embarrassing-to-ask/cpage/1#comment-382 Daniel White Thu, 28 Apr 2011 15:55:46 +0000 http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/leadership-consulting-a-question-too-embarrassing-to-ask#comment-382 Martha and Thad, Great piece citing an eternal reality, and the reasons it exists. Once leaders decide to move beyond their projection and fear, they need to deliver the feedback skillfully so it is accepted. Since defensiveness is most peoples' natural reaction to criticism, a good leader works to help the employee move past defensiveness into acceptance and learning. Dan Martha and Thad,
Great piece citing an eternal reality, and the reasons it exists. Once leaders decide to move beyond their projection and fear, they need to deliver the feedback skillfully so it is accepted. Since defensiveness is most peoples’ natural reaction to criticism, a good leader works to help the employee move past defensiveness into acceptance and learning.
Dan

]]> Comment on Leadership Consulting: A Question Too Embarrassing to Ask by John E. Smith http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/leadership-consulting-a-question-too-embarrassing-to-ask/cpage/1#comment-381 John E. Smith Wed, 27 Apr 2011 15:45:26 +0000 http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/leadership-consulting-a-question-too-embarrassing-to-ask#comment-381 Hi, guys - great discussion. I guess the question becomes why we are so afraid of knowing ourselves. My background includes facilitating groups where the goal was to go to those places that most people avoid going. This means dealing with those thoughts and emotions that are at best uncomfortable and are often terrifying. What I have seen time and time again is what I call the "Now What?" moment. Once an uncomfortable or scary truth has been uncovered, the next steps are crucial. This is where i see many professionals in the areas you listed above fail. They simply are not prepared to work through the process of personal change that is that next step. Now if knowledge equaled behavior change, this would not be an issue. However, an addict who understands the addictive process is just an educated addict until they move through the recovery phase. Getting back to the corporate world, too often I see the emphasis on knowledge as the answer. It's important, but that messy change process is what will get a fearful leader to a point where they are able to actually lead those who follow them. Then the answer to your original question changes. Great post:) John Hi, guys – great discussion.

I guess the question becomes why we are so afraid of knowing ourselves.

My background includes facilitating groups where the goal was to go to those places that most people avoid going. This means dealing with those thoughts and emotions that are at best uncomfortable and are often terrifying.

What I have seen time and time again is what I call the “Now What?” moment. Once an uncomfortable or scary truth has been uncovered, the next steps are crucial. This is where i see many professionals in the areas you listed above fail. They simply are not prepared to work through the process of personal change that is that next step.

Now if knowledge equaled behavior change, this would not be an issue. However, an addict who understands the addictive process is just an educated addict until they move through the recovery phase.

Getting back to the corporate world, too often I see the emphasis on knowledge as the answer. It’s important, but that messy change process is what will get a fearful leader to a point where they are able to actually lead those who follow them. Then the answer to your original question changes.

Great post:)

John

]]> Comment on Traditional Employee Engagement Strategies Are Flawed by Drew Hawkins http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/traditional-employee-engagement-strategies-are-flawed/cpage/1#comment-317 Drew Hawkins Wed, 04 Aug 2010 21:01:35 +0000 http://www.beliefsysteminstitute.com/blog/traditional-employee-engagement-strategies-are-flawed#comment-317 It's true that there isn't a "one-size-fits-all" engagement system. The best way to do it is to figure what exactly does motivate your employee base and cater to their different needs. Communication is one of the biggest factors in engagement - hands down It’s true that there isn’t a “one-size-fits-all” engagement system. The best way to do it is to figure what exactly does motivate your employee base and cater to their different needs. Communication is one of the biggest factors in engagement – hands down

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